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Eros state

The stress state involves the strongest negative feelings and the eros state involves the strongest positive ones. These feelings are so intense, that there is not logos thinking, but emotional thinking. The feelings are: love, yearning, desire, ecstasy, happiness, euphoria, gaiety, enthusiasm, jubilation, delight and all the other strong positive feelings.
You can feel like you're floating on a cloud or in seventh heaven. You feel very alive, energetic and present.
You might be alone in nature, or celebrating joyfully in the company of others. It can be linked to romance and eroticism. It might be a joyful time together with your child, or it might be you are just glad to be alive.
It is a sensual and bodily state involving the enjoyment of music and dance, sex, food and wine, or exciting physical challenges.
Your body feels to be in a comfortable, relaxed and energetic state. In the case of stronger feelings, for example feelings of pleasure from touch, our attention is drawn from the external to the internal, and we find that the boundaries between our body and environment can disappear, and our normal perception of time and space changes.
The strongest feelings of pleasure arise during sexual intercourse, culminating in orgasm.

There have always been myths about a Paradise or Garden of Eden. These myths tell us about the human dream regarding the eros state, and not about a particular place on earth or in the universe. Paradise is a figurative expression, a metaphor for the eros state.
This is similar to what Jesus declares: "The kingdom of God is within you" (The Gospel of Thomas, Logion3), and what Buddha taught: "You are all buddhas".
Below is an ancient Chinese description of Hell and Paradise.
According to ancient Chinese tradition, the difference between Hell and Paradise is insignificant, yet at the same time crucial.
"Hell is a beautifully decorated banquet hall with long tables overflowing with delicious food and all kinds of festive drinks. The guests are seated and their mouths are watering. But each one has been given a pair of two-meter long chopsticks. They are unable to get the food into their mouths. They suffer the torments of hell.
Paradise is exactly the same banquet hall with long tables, overflowing… etc. Even the chopsticks are the same. The only difference is that each guest uses their chopsticks to put food into the mouth of the person sitting opposite. Thus everyone can enjoy the delights of paradise."
This allegory, like the religions, tells us something about the fact that when we help others and are kind towards them, we help both ourselves and others to attain our eros state.
Care for others is both psychologically and biologically conditioned. An important aspect of care is that we ourselves, and others, are not lonely or isolated. We can step across our boundaries and reach out to each other. The greater our affinity with others and life, the healthier we are.
The dream of lost Paradise is also a longing for the magic and pleasurable world we lived in as young children.

The eros state is a state involving faith, hope and love. It might be a religious faith, but it might also be a common faith in the good things of life, and that the best success comes from being good to yourself, others and nature. Hope can strengthen faith in the fact that love and goodness can triumph over evil.
Love is something that arises in us in certain relationships, but it is also a feeling we have within us which can easily disappear if we are not careful.
In the story, "The little prince", by Antoine Saint-Exupéry, the fox says in his parting speech to the little prince:
"And now here is my secret, a very simple secret: It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye."
"What is essential is invisible to the eye", repeated the little prince, so that he could better remember it.

The cognition in the eros state is a thinking coloured by the emotions, which expresses something positive, and typically something important, in our lives and inner world. In our first years of life, our thoughts are characterised by a subjective, pleasure-oriented thinking. It is a magic thinking. During childhood, cognition becomes more objective and reality-oriented.
In adults, however, this cognition can be found in fantasy, which can become so intense that fantasy and reality cannot be distinguished. The holistic thinking described in the LogosEros state becomes so pronounced in the Eros state that the boundaries between one's ego and the surrounding world are influenced, and possibly even abolished: the ego becomes one with the surrounding world.
Intuition can become so strong, that one no longer sees it as a perception that arises and can be used along with other perceptions, but as absolute truth.

This kind of cognition occurs in our dreams, where everything is possible. The present, the past and the future all melt into one, and logic is abolished. We can also recognise these characteristics in our daydreams, when we completely relax and sink into ourselves.
This cognition is also found in humour and in creative artistic expression, such as in poetry, fables and fairy tales, as well as in myths and religions.
Myths, like dreams and fairy-tales are a product of human fantasy. As a result, the images used, even though they are derived from the material world and its history, like dreams are expressions of our hope, longings, fears and possibilities.
Myths are psychologically symbolic. Their narratives consist of metaphors used figuratively, not intended as a literal description of reality.
We are also familiar with metaphors in our daily lives, for example when we call our boyfriend or girlfriend our "flame".

A strong emotional eros state is also a spiritual state. The idea of the spiritual is understood in different ways. Conceptually, spirit is another word for life. It is synonymous with breathing, the breath of life or life force. Psyche also means spirit, life spirit, life, and soul, and in the Greco-Roman mythology, Psyche was Cupid's young, beautiful lover. (Amor (Cupid) is the Latin name for Eros, the Greek god of love).
The spiritual has something to do with perceiving ourselves as part of something bigger, a bigger self, a spirit, a god, life, nature, or a loving, intimate relationship with another person.
This experience of transcendence transgresses the sensual experience boundary.
Our biological transcendence is based in the genes we inherit and pass on together.
Whether we are religious believers or not, fundamental spirituality is about the important human qualities like goodness, love, compassion and caring.



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